Inclusive Wedding Vows 101: Say What You Really Mean
Not into traditional vows? Same.
If your wedding or elopement is already breaking the rules, skipping the giant guest list, ditching the white dress, or saying your vows by the ocean instead of in a church, you deserve words that feel just as personal.
Inclusive wedding vows are for anyone who wants to make promises without assumptions about gender, roles, religion, or what love is “supposed to” look like. Yes, that includes Nova Scotia couples saying “I do” in a forest, on a beach, on a foggy cliff, or even at the pizza shop in Halifax.
What Makes Wedding Vows Inclusive?
Inclusive vows are more than just avoiding gendered language. They honor your unique love story. Here’s the vibe:
Skip phrases like “husband and wife” or “man and wife”
Ditch outdated roles. No one is “obeying” anyone here
Include your chosen family, cultural values, or personal beliefs
Use names or “partner,” “love,” or “best friend” instead of titles
Example Inclusive Vow
“I promise to choose you again and again in every version of life, as my teammate, my safe place, and my favorite adventure.”
Vow Writing Prompts to Get You Started
Not sure where to begin? Try finishing these sentences:
I knew I loved you when…
You make me feel…
I promise to always…
I hope our life includes…
Even when it’s hard, I will…
Elopement-Friendly Vows
If you are exchanging vows in a quiet spot by the cliffs, barefoot on a beach, or tucked into a forest trail, you do not need a long speech. Speak softly, whisper if you want, bring a little vow book, write one sentence, or just hold each other. The magic is already there.
Tips for Writing Your Own Vows
Write like you speak. Do not force poetry if that is not you.
Start early. Some last-minute magic happens but give yourself time.
It is okay to cry, laugh, swear, or pause.
Focus on promises you can keep. Growth, effort, love, these are all fair game.
Why It Matters
As someone who captures Nova Scotia elopements, proposals, and engagement sessions, I have seen vows whispered in the rain, scribbled in notebooks, spoken in two languages, or simply said with a squeeze of the hand. There is no right way, only your way.
Inclusive vows are not just trendy. They are powerful, meaningful, and yours. They help your love feel celebrated in a way that is authentic and real.
